Gratitude on Hard Days: What I Write When “Be Thankful” Feels Like Pressure
There’s a particular kind of tired that shows up when someone says, “Just focus on what you’re grateful for.” I know the advice means well….
Neurodivergent Life (ND/AuDHD)
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Gentle Gifts for the Neurodivergent People You Love
Buying a gift for someone whose brain works a little differently can feel tricky. Scented candles might be too much. A “productivity” planner can feel…
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Interoception and the ND Body: Learning to Hear What Your Body Is Actually Saying
Suddenly starving, mysteriously furious, sick for days before noticing — if your body’s messages keep arriving late or garbled, that’s interoception, and ND brains often receive it on a weak signal. Here’s how to work with it.
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What ND Burnout Actually Feels Like, and What Rest Can’t Do Alone
You took the vacation. You slept. You’re still empty. ND burnout isn’t tiredness — it’s a nervous system that ran over capacity for years, and recovery asks for more than a nap. Here’s what it actually requires.
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Unmasking at Home: Small Ways to Stop Performing When No One Is Watching
The door is closed. The audience went home. So why is the performance still running? On the mask that forgot how to come off — and small, safe experiments in being unwatched.
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Demand Avoidance and the Pressure to Function: A Compassionate Look at PDA
The moment something becomes a ‘have to’ — even something you wanted — your whole system slams the brakes. PDA isn’t defiance or laziness. It’s a nervous system protecting its autonomy, and it responds to gentleness, not force.
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Object Permanence and Relationships: When Out of Sight Means Gone
You love them. You just forgot they existed for three months. On the ADHD out-of-sight-out-of-mind effect, the friendships it quietly strains, and the anchors that keep people — and good feelings about yourself — in view.
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Transitions Are Hard and That’s Neurological, Not a Personal Failing
Getting into the shower is impossible. So is getting out of it. If switching between tasks feels like wading through wet cement, that’s not laziness — it’s the real cost of gear-changing for ND brains.
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Time Blindness Is Not a Character Flaw: A Gentler Way to Relate to Time
Fifteen minutes and three hours can feel identical from the inside. Time blindness is a real feature of ND brains — not carelessness. Here’s how to build a friendlier relationship with the clock, guilt not included.
